Anal Rimming 101: Your #1 Beginner’s Guide To Analingus

best anal rimming tips from experts

If it's your first time anal rimming, this guide will help you to do it pleasantly, safely and properly.

After 20 hours of research crowdsourcing hundreds of couple analingus tips, trying them myself, what you're about to read condenses everything in actionable steps:

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woman wondering rimming safety at sea

As long as you do it with a safe partner where you both have been tested against STD's — it quite safe indeed.

Just take a shower and enjoy…

Never had any problems…

Here's what other people say:

  • Little to no risk, truly. I have licked my wife’s ass many times, and of late, she does it for me at least once a week. I can’t recall either of us ever getting sick at all.” Source: alittlebirdy1
  • I lick my wife ass every time i give her oral and i have never got sick or bad taste. She is always clean and ready for it so i am happy about that. my wife to enjoys it very much.”
  • No risk, but seriously, have her shower first. Join her if you wish and get that thing nice and clean.” Source: psalyer
  • “My boyfriend eats my ass pretty regularly. He’s either got an iron stomach or it’s not that risky.” Source: MixedBritGirl
  • “I'm a nurse. You can get diseases from from this but i wouldn’t worry if you have good hygiene. I am not married but my boyfriend and i do it. I recommend always doing it after both of you get out of the shower. and i mean right after getting out of the shower. like 4 hours after the shower i probs wouldn’t do it b/c if your partner passes any gas it would make that area not clean anymore (its nothing you would see but it still is not as clean and I personally would recommend for wanting to rim).” Source: cheezypellican

Finally, here's a scientific research on even eating the feces (poop).

Not like you want to eat ones but here we're exploring how dangerous it would be if you accidentally eat some poop.

The final verdict is that as long as there are no intestinal infections, meaning that partner is healthy, there are no issues!

The biggest risk is if you transfer the butt bacteria to the vagina. That can cause infection… like bacterial vaginosis, yeast infection or UTI's.

So ideally if you've been licking her ass, then you shouldn't lick the pussy after that.

You can still finger her or go for classical intercourse action…

You can also use dental dams. Put them over the butt and lick it…then you can immediately go to licking pussy.

But it's quite a turnoff and kinda destroys the kinky purpose.

So either brush your teeth or use other items for pussy.

I mean, you can still lick pussy after, but that's quite dangerous.


woman preparing for rimming

How To Prepare For Anal Rimming?

I guess the first thing is just to be open to idea.

Whether you're a man or woman — there's nothing wrong about enjoying butt play.

It may take some time to open up, but it's easy with a partner you trust.

As for actual preparation, it's basics:

  • take a shower before
  • don't eat anything spicy or that could cause your belly to be upset. (no tacos hah)
  • shave the asshole — yeah, it's tricky to get there, but you're doing it for your partner. It's just always nicer if it's clean back there.

Other than that remember that it's all safe as long as ass bacteria doesn't go in vagina.

Watch this helpful ass eating video to learn more:


How To Do Anal douche

Do a deep cleaning with enema bulb. It’s simple.

basic douching enema

Get a bulb with a nozzle, that you can fill with warm, clean (drinking) water.

Lube the nozzle, and splash the water inside your anus.

Leave it there for a while to let the water loose up any solid matter that could be in your rectum. Push the water out.

Repeat for 3x — and your butt will be as clean as you can get!

Keep baby vibes or paper towels nearby just in case you need them.

Oh and get a nice anal lube as butt doesn't naturally lubricate and saliva won't be enough.

That's about it 😉


Even after thorough cleaning, my boyfriend’s ass still smells.

I would like to rim. What to do?


“The hair retains odor. “

“Going to have to shave, pluck, or wax that ass.

Also if the smell is lingering in the hairs, a quick swipe with an alcohol wipe might work.

If you don’t have rubbing alcohol, hand sanitizer and a washcloth will work.

It will probably burn for like 2 seconds but it will definitely kill any lingering smell in the hair.

Source: I’m gross and I do this with my armpits/pubes to kill BO when I don’t have time for a shower/full shave.

If you’re going to butt chug vodka, I recommend heavily diluting it.

About 8:1 will cut down the alcohol percentage to about 5%. It will burn a whole lot less on the way out.

Not that I speak from experience or anything.”

Source: trashlikeyourmom


woman showing analingus positions

The Best Analingus Positions

Whatever position you choose, it's good to think if possible about gravity.

The only real danger to infections is if butt bacteria gets into vagina.

So technically it's smart to keep anus downhill from the vagina.

For example, in doggy style the liquids from ass will go down to vagina and gravity works against you.

For that reason, my favorite analingus position is her laying on her back (with pillow or wedge under).

Or pull her on the side of the bed.

If she lifts her legs, it will make her butt nicely exposed.

You can start licking pussy and then go to analingus (you cannot go back and forth though…).

It's not recommended to go from butt to pussy.

But you can start with it, and then simply use fingers while licking her ass.


More analingus position ideas from other people :

  • “I usually position myself behind my wife so I can work my thumb directly on her clit while I feast on her ass. She has reached orgasm with this dual stimulation many many times. She’s loves it, and I love doing it.”
    Source: 
    abovvvetheclouds
  • “I think it depends in part on her body shape.
    I have a little bit of belly, so I don’t like getting squished up, plus that makes it harder to breathe.
    A pillow under her hips might work, especially if you like her ass.
    Personally, I like being bent over a massage table.
    The table supports my body weight pretty much, and my ass is “presented” in a way that is just such a kinky turn on.
    My partner came, just looking at me bent over like that, a toy in my ass.”
    Source: 
    sexycoat
  • “I’m a guy but I like 69ing when going to brown-town, what’s better than licking taint while getting sucked off?”
    Source: 
    dlxnj
  • Facesitting
  • “Husband of analingus enjoying wife.
    It depends on how deep I want to go. Just sniffing and licking, she is on her belly with thighs spread, and I bury my face in between the cheeks.
    If she is up for deep tongue penetration, she gets doggy style in the edge of the bed, and I kneel on the floor next to her.
    Great penetration and easy on my back.”
    Source: 
    ArtVandelayAV

people sharing anal rimming tips

Other People Analingus Experiences & Tips

Yep, here's to more stories and common questions answered by real people… 🙂

Extra perspective than only mine, hope you'll enjoy it:

Here's a nice video where pornstars share their experiences and feelings about rim jobs:

Main takeaway: make sure your ass is clean and doesn't smell!


“I’ve recently done an anilingus to my GF for the first time.”

“And now I’m totally addicted 😀

Seriously, guys.

It’s a new world that opened to me.

Even if you cannot (maybe?) make your partner cum this way, there is plenty of interesting things :

  • There are infinite ways to lick that booty. Where the cunnilingus is pretty strict on the method, here, you can freely express yourself, do circles, waves, double rotating dragon, and it’s really enjoyable
  • You can feel the pleasure of your partner trough the anal contractions (and muscles pressures). I personally find this more enjoyable than hips movements because it’s directly the zone you touch that react.
  • It offers a great mechanical management (yeah, technicals terms baby). You can squeeze, press, spread without fearing of touching inappropriate parts (however, try to avoid vagina/clitoris, infection risk) and of course, you can dive into that butt to redeem your loving moaning-money.

Of course, cunnilingus is still important / efficient, but please comrades, do not fear to eat that booty.

I should tell that I often stimulate vagina/clitoris in the same time. Ass-job could be sometime non-efficient when used alone 🙂

There is so much fun down there.”

Source: x000038f


funny woman licking spoon as ass

“Me and my long-time girlfriend tried analingus for the first time with unexpected results…”

“Me and my girlfriend, both 21, decided on a passionate love making session last night.

The usual things for foreplay to warm up but then before I knew it I had her with her face down in the pillow and butt in the air, two fingers inside of her and stimulating her clitoris.

I saw her anus staring back at me and just did a long lick up to it from where my fingers started and it drove her mad.

She started shaking like a car on bad gas and told me to keep doing it.

Moments later, I find myself completely tongue deep in her and she’s loving it!

Afterwards, she tells me she came at least 3 times in that position doing what I was doing and thoroughly enjoyed it!

She plans on adding it to our normal repertoire and may even reciprocate(though I’m personally a little self-conscious about it) .

Now I don’t see why is there so much stigma behind doing this?

I mean granted if somebody keeps themselves that clean enough that you would want to do it in the first place.

Especially since we both enjoyed it!”

Source: realbadsexlexia


Try This If You Want To Eat Ass Properly

“Blow him with your mouth only, no hands on dick. go as deep as you can, then a bit deeper.

You might not be able to go all the way down, but need to make sure the head of his penis is in your throat

The feeling of the pressure of the throat on the head + warmth + moist environment is close to the feeling of a vagina during her orgasm.

With the palm of one hand, grab his balls and massage them.

Find that point of pressure that’s right between extreme pleasure and pain, but keep it on the pleasure side

With the fingers of that same hand massage his perineum (no man’s land between his balls and his anus).

Then push deep and go all over until you find where you get the most reaction.

The prostate is right behind the wall of skin, there, somewhere.

With the other hand massage his anus and the whole area.

Push a finger in when he starts to pushing his anus against your fingers.

Please use lots of saliva (or lube).

If you don’t, he won’t realize it in the heat of the moment, but he’ll be literally butt hurt for the next few days.

Alternative method, if you need your finger for taking care of his balls, use the thumb of the butt hand to take care of his perineum.

I personally prefer the first one, because the more fingers massaging the perineum the better).

Have fun!”

Source: fap_fap_fap_


woman licking and milking mans prostate

“I got my partner a basic prostate massager as a step between fingers and pegging. “

“He’d always say that we need to buy a harness and fool around, but then I’d finger him, he’d cum, and say “never mind, they’re so expensive, I like this, with just you”.

But my wrists and jaw gets sore before I’m done enjoying his ass, so I wanted to bring a toy in.

I settled on a massager that can be worn as a butt plug, I figured worse comes to worse, if he takes one look at it and says no, I can use it instead.

The first few times I used it with him, it was mid-rim job, once my wrist and jaw seized up, I’d ask if I can use the toy on him and he’d happily say “yeah, ok”.

But I always had to initiate, so I got the impression he was doing it mostly for my pleasure and to save my joints.

A few weeks later I’m taking a shower and as I get in I look down and the massager is just sitting on the floor of the shower.

I give it a proper wash since shower bases are kinda gross, and put it back in its cotton bag in the bedroom drawer.

A few days later, it’s sitting (clean) on the bathroom counter.

I can’t explain it, but just knowing he was using it when home alone was so hot.

I bought it for his pleasure and he was giving it a proper try.

My partner’s birthday was a few months ago and our birthday tradition has always been to give the birthday person an hour long sensual massage then oral until they cum.

So I get the oil and candles and he strips to his underpants and lies on his stomach.

Naturally I give his arse a squeeze before I start the massage proper, and he’s got the prostate massager in, acting all nonchalant like he doesn’t have a sexy secret in his ass…

…the massage part of the evening didn’t last long.”

Source: DearyDairy


car representing rim job

“Only really did rim job once with an ex but was always really turned on if she started licking my balls and perineum, the closer she got the more I hoped she’d go for it. “

“When we finally tried it that was amazing but after that she told me to turn over onto all fours and licked me from behind while jerking me backwards (kind of like milking a cow).

I can not express how amazing this felt (although your first paragraph came close).

I seriously still fantasize about it years later.

The same girl would also sometimes push on my perineum when jerking me off or if she was riding reverse cowgirl.

Definitely an interesting sensation and I think you might be able to stimulate the prostate that way as well if you push quite hard.

I don’t really think there’s an incorrect way to do it though, just match it to the mood (if you’re being having rough sex then be a little rougher, if you’re teasing him then be soft and gentle).

Personally I love it when a girl is being really gentle and teasing but then every once in a while squeezes my ass or bites my thigh quite roughly, like she’s having trouble holding herself back.

Finally, if you are going to (or want to) try penetrating him, whether with a tongue, finger etc.,

It’s probably a good idea to just straight up talk to him about it (if you haven’t already, not sure if that’s what you meant by “mentioning it”).

Maybe he feels very differently about penetration than he does about stimulation, but either way it’s best to have talked about it ahead of time and you can both express what you’re hoping to get out of it, what you definitely don’t want, what you’re curious to try etc.

Having that conversation beforehand can make it a lot easier and more relaxing in the heat of the moment.”

Source: Pandam4n


man having his ass licked

“I used to rim my ex and we both loved it. “

“Thing is, he initiated it the first time and we went from there.

That said, you do still have to get him going before slowly inching your way down that way and reading his body language/moans for signs of hesitation from him.

You have to go down on him like you’re trying to suck the soul from his body.

Real wet and sloppy.

As he starts bucking and moaning, slightly change the rhythm by going a bit further south each time you bob.

Make it subtle and not abrupt.

As you’re making your way south to include his balls in this soul sucking blow job, you can take your hands slowly (nothing can be abrupt!) and let them make their way under his thighs.

Your hands are oh so casually gently caressing under his thighs while you lick and drool on his balls.

Once your hands are there and he’s moaning in pleasure, very gently apply some pressure.

If he wants his ass licked, girl he will bring his knees to his chest.

You get him going and you can most likely pick up on his body language of whether or not its ok that day.

Its not always a good moment to have your booty hole licked, so keep that in mind just in case he does hesitate or clench up during your BJ.

Maybe it just wasnt a good moment for him and maybe try again another time.

One time (in the height of passion BJ) I just whispered “can I get in there?” as I squeezed his ass.

He quickly gave me an “uh huh” and positioned himself appropriately.

Its fun!!! Good luck!”


“My girl gets the most intense orgasms when I stick to anal rimming without touching her pussy at all.”

“Here’s the recipe:

  • My tongue focuses only on her anus
  • My hands are all over her body
  • Do that for 15'+
  • Lube up and slide in her ass slowly, balls deep
  • Stay still
  • Explosion!”

Source: PetMySnake


woman licking icecream like giving blowjob

“What's the appeal in ass licking?? I see zero appeal in it.”

“To each their own I guess.

The poo hole? Lol.

Women shower and can wash their ass with a soapy washcloth.

A lot of women (and even men- I’m one of them) use baby/wet wipes after a bowel movement.

So I don’t think most women are walking around with shitty asses all day, in general.

I’m not really into fucking a woman in the ass.
But I LOVE analingus!

I have an ass fetish and LOVE women’s assholes, the way they look, and for me, the darker her asshole is, the better.

I love smelling and licking ass, clean of course, but sweaty and not shower fresh is fine too.

But not dirty, as in bad hygiene.

Hair on a woman’s asshole doesn’t bother me.

I do like it shaven but if she doesn’t want to, no big deal.

There’s only one place on a woman where where I absolutely don’t like hair, and I’m grossed out by it- the legs.

As a leg man, I love smooth shaven/waxed legs.

That’s the only dealbreaker I have with body hair.

Hair doesn’t automatically mean ‘dirty’ or anything.

With good grooming, hair isn’t an issue.”

Source: Anonymous


“Does analingus taste…shitty?”

“Always even when you are not licking an asshole… Hygiene.

Both for you and your partner. I’ve found it to be one of those things you just… do.

In the spur of the moment with a SO… it’s sexy and dirty while also intimate, which I am into.

A freshly washed asshole is advised but feel her out.

Chances are that she wont let you do it if she is a bit backed up and not feeling sexy there… so go for it.

I usually massage my SO’s asshole while doing her doggy to see how she feels and gently slide my thumb in.

If she reaches her hand back when I am massaging the rim… that usually means “Stop, stop… I had tacos.” (or if this is uncharted territory it means “No. I’m not ready for that.”)

funny ass licking meme

If there is nothing on my thumb we are good to go.

This all being done in a sexy manner… not like I’m testing for PH levels with my thumb for um science.”

Source: Anonymous


woman doing a rim job

“Do guys enjoy rimming as much as girls do?”

Since there is a strong bias towards rimming being strictly something that gays do, let's debunk this myth first!

Truth is, guys have a lot more reasons to enjoy anything butt sex related than girls and if they are just open-minded enough they will unleash so much pleasure in there…!


“Highly underrated sex act, I think the fear of liking anal stimulation=you’re the big gay makes a lot of guys miss out on an extremely pleasurable experience.”


“I’m a guy who’s been rimmed.

I always have loved it.

Makes cum hard.”

Source: EVILGR33NRNGR


“Holy shit, being rimmed by my wife is one of my favorite sexual activities.”

Source: norcal_woo_woo


“The noises my husband makes when I fool around back there keep me coming back for more.

He’d eat my ass hourly if I let him.”

Source: alittlebirdy1


woman eating mans ass

“I looooove when dudes are into ass play. When I peg my bf his dick gets harder than I thought possible.”

“Look into the prostate milking technique.

Done properly it feels orgasmic without ejaculation.

Like I can feel his cock tremble and throb with orgasm without ejaculation.

It’s an amazing thing to behold.”

Source: kiwi725


“I think guys probably enjoy it more than girls if they comfortable enough with themselves.

I know my boyfriend clearly enjoys it more than I do.”

Source: yesmissy


“As a male I can tell you rimming & prostate milking is the single most amazing physical experience you can possibly ever have. “

“After you fight of the odd sensations of thinking you are going to pee all over the place, and the slight discomfort of your prostate feeling so full, a warmth begins to build up, almost an itch you cant scratch.

It builds and builds and builds until all of a sudden Electrical impulses radiate all over your whole body and you shake followed by radiating warmth, and then total collapse.

Its all you imagine a woman’s G-sport orgasm might be like and possibly more due to the emotional involvement required to achieve this feat.

And the best part, because it was not a standard orgasm you still have a full orgasm left to go, but your body may be so tired you just go to sleep instead.”

Source: drunken_klingon


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Bringing It All together

That's it..!

The quick introduction to analingus!

Check back to links or bookmark this page so when you're read for the next level anal play, you know where to look…!

I love butt play and my girlfriend loves too…

But we both had insecurities and it took time to overcome past limiting conditioning.

We all have it. Know it and work with it…

When you do, you'll unlock so much deeper pleasures and your personal and sexual relationships will only improve!

Cheers! 🍷

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