10 Best Ways How To Jerk Off Towards Bliss in 2019

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You'll be surprised to learn how many incredible ways there are how to jerk off besides the ordinary up/down stroking motion. 

After more than 20 hours of scouring the forums and filtering through hundreds of masturbation techniques here you'll learn the most effective, and pleasurable ways in one place.

Update: There's another masturbation guide covering other techniques you might want to check out too

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First of all… the lube…

A good lube will make everything feel better.

Yeah, you might have a little more mess to clean off, but lubing it all around will pay off a big way.

And I'm not even talking about buying something expensive..

Coconut oil is the best cheap option you can take!

If you want the best from coconut get a virgin, unrefined coconut oil, but if you don't care: anything will do.

If you want something more specialised that will work also during sexual intercourses, then Sliquid Sassy lube has proven to be the most enjoyable across a wide range of anal play lovers (glycerin-free, paraben-free).

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Walking The Edge Masturbation Technique

This is not really a technique, but edging will seriously change your life.

It will teach you to walk the edge of the orgasms while not ejaculating…

The gist of it is that you get yourself up to 90%, 95% close to ejaculation and then back off.

When you ultimately do cum your orgasm will be so much longer and powerful.

While it works great by yourself, it will work even better during the sex.

If you know your own limits you will be able to last much longer and enjoy a lot more. You will never cum until you want to.

The way you practice is: you change your mindset about masturbation.

You don't go for a goal, you work on getting to know yourself.

Ideally don't use porn because it will distract you from learning about yourself in this case.


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Use Two Hands & Explore All The Area For Increased Masturbation Sensitivity

You probably always masturbate the same way — with your most comfortable hand, same motions… that you know please you.

But how about jerking yourself off with other hand?

How about using both hands?

This is my pro tip — search on adult sites — “the best handjob”, “the best blowjob”.

Look what pornstars are doing there and mimic them! You'll discover so many unique techniques they use… 🙂

And while you cannot give yourself a blowjob, you definitely can use hands, rub your balls and explore not only your penis, but the surrounding area.

You can also search for “real female orgasms compilation” and watch how girls get themselves to orgasm, how their body shakes, how their moan…

Try to mimic their body movements and you might discover great new sensations.

Here's a cool video showing 8 masturbation strokes that you might enjoy too:

This is my favorite way to learn new masturbation techniques.


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 Try NoFap For A While

Actually after jerking myself off for years…

I tried to Nofap (no masturbation, no ejaculation) for 99 days.

Turns out there are tons of benefits to semen retention and many extra successful people from past have been practicing it.

You don't need to go crazy as I do (now I don't ejaculate more than once a month).

But I've learned now how to have sex and not ejaculate, and it leaves me feeling a lot better and more energised in the long run.

But even if you just retain from porn or ejaculation for a week…

You'll notice how horny you get and how intense (and how much more cum) there is.

It's pretty awesome…

Which leads me to the next point:


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Masturbate Without The Porn

If you've been masturbating all the time with the porn like most people including me…

You've desensitised your brain and you need more intense and more extreme stimulation.

But you can have detox with nofap…and you can learn to enjoy masturbation a lot more if you do it without a porn.

Yeah…by just laying down and pleasuring yourself…

This will feel new and will get some time to get used to, but I love to both fantasize and try to be completely present at times.

When I'm being present while jerking off I'm learning and sensing how sensitive other parts get…

I start to explore more, my balls, everything around, try moaning, deep breathing…

Touching my penis in different ways — like just rubbing the frenulum, just the shaft….or circling the glans of the head.

It's pretty intense and so much new sensations have come out of this play…

Do try it!


Use Vibrator On Your Dick

Nothing really comes close to the stimulation you can get with a genuine vibrating wand.

For most people they prefer to use tried and true Hitachi Magic Wand for the job.

This model will last your for years and wireless function opens it up for lots of ideas.

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Hitachi Magic Wand with Hummer attachment will blow any other male sex toy out of the water!

Basically just apply the vibrator on any part of the body, not only the penis…

Especially helpful if you explore the whole area around. You'll increase your sensitivity and reach a lot more intense orgasms.


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Hands Free Masturbation

There are two ways to go about it…

  • You invest in a blowjob toy that jerks your penis off
  • You watch special guided videos with headphones that use binaural beats to get you achieve orgasms without touching yourself (hard but possible!)

The best male fucking machine is the Fleshlight Launch (I've written a detailed guide on it).

Update: A few months ago Kiiroo & Fleshlight stopped their collaboration and that meant that Fleshlight Launch got discontinued. Right now you CANNOT BUY Fleshlight Launch anywhere online, and those are the bad news…

…however Kiiroo rose up to fill the void and on October 1, 2020 they released a new automatic masturbator Kiiroo Keon that I had a pleasure to review.

And if I liked Fleshlight Launch before, Kiiroo Keon blows it out of the water in comparison.

They improved in all the fronts:

  • Keon is a lot more silent
  • It feels intuitive to use and easy to hold
  • It feels like a solid high quality toy, not the plastic feel that Launch left.
  • Connecting to the app is easy, even though you’ll still need to work extra to get the perfect sync with the interactive videos (same as with Launch, the best sync comes from perfectly synced scripts and downloaded video on computer, not streamed one)

Simply put Fleshlight Launch was the first serious toy to fill the void and give us a high quality automatic masturbator. But innovations often aren’t perfect, it takes time for toy maker to listen to feedback and improve.

Well, Kiiro Keon is the next evolution and gives us an automatic masturbator that is a joy to use. If you’re still skeptical, read on my full review and see for yourself:

Read Kiiroo Keon Review

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It's really the best option you have out there right now — but it will cost your around $300 ($200 for Fleshlight Launch and $100 for the Fleshlight)

But the cool things is that there are virtual reality porn videos that you can connect with this device…

And then this fucking machine will mimic the strokes and intensity that happen on the videos.

In past this bluetooth connection was buggy and you needed to pay separately for those videos.

Not anymore, PornHub has recently released these VR videos for free…

Mix it up with VR goggles and nice headphones and you'll be BLOWN AWAY!

I promise you that..!

Secondly watch the special guided binaural beats videos that will guide you (hypnotise) to reach powerful orgasms without touching yourself.

It does take some effort, doesn't work for everyone…and you may need to retain yourself from any sexual stimulation to increase sensitivity…

But it's possible.

🔞 Here are three videos to get your started (NSFW).


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Milk Your Prostate For Intense Prostate Orgasms

Mmm…did you know that men have more reasons to enjoy anal play than women?

Yeah, we have the precious P-spot hidden down there..!

For some men that's the path to get to non-ejaculatory whole body orgasms…

For some it's just a different kind of orgasm.

Here's how men describe how prostate orgasm feels:

  • “Totally different. [Prostate stimulation feels] duller and less intense in the sense of concentrated excitement, but very powerful and intense in a more full-body experience way.”
  • “It is a deeper, fuller, more encompassing pleasure, radiating from within the body instead of feeling like external stimulation.”
  • “Penile stimulation is about certain external ‘hot spots,’ while prostate stimulation is all internal.”

The best way to stimulate the prostate and have chances to quickly reach a prostate orgasm is by using a prostate massager.

And if you want to try prostate milking using your fingers first… and learn how the whole process looks like, read my full prostate milking guide.

It's an amazing journey to take at least once!


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Give A Sex Doll A Try

Okay, this is probably even more pricey…but…

If you want the closest experience to the real sex…and don't want to go out looking for a girlfriend…

Then this is a great alternative.

There's a cheap sex doll commonly available today that has excellent quality.

And just imagine having 30–50kg realistic sex doll that you can fuck in all the holes and have sex for as long as you want???

You'll learn the definition of having too much sex hah.


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Try The Urethral Sounding

Okay, this is a bit more extreme.

But you can actually sound your urethra (stick a special penis plug in your urethra) to gain intense pleasure!

While prostate milking has indirect access to prostate… then through urethra you can actually directly stimulate the prostate!!!

And there are tons of nerve endings in there that are surprisingly pleasurable!

It's quite popular between some men who just love the extremity of it and it does give very unique sensations.

Here's one man describing how urethral sounding feels:

“I’ve only recently started out with sounding but the only way I can describe it is like you’re being touched inside in a way which you will never have experienced before…
…which you can’t experience any other way and which feels totally unnatural but also strangely good.
It’s like you’re being touched way down deep, from INSIDE the very core of the parts that make your orgasm happen.
The sensations from those parts are coming at the wrong time in the arousal cycle so the stimulation feels intense but…out of place.
It’s like you’re feeling a sensation that you SHOULDN’T be able to enjoy but you do and you can’t help wanting just a LITTLE bit more.”

Source: BigMikeUK

But you must know you need special urethral rods, special lube and extra care for hygiene.


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Bringing It All Together

I did run through all the techniques quickly…

But do read the surrounding guides, do experiment and you'll find how amazing jerking off can become again.

I would recommend that you learn not to ejaculate too often as it will leave you more energised to do other things.

Plus, when you learn how to edge yourself, last longer — you'll actually be a lot better lover during the sex.

Women are naturally more sensitive so they enjoy this kind of explorative touch a lot more than just rubbing the clit.

Enjoy! 🍷

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